Confessions of Women - 1

On the streets of Schaerbeek

The things I have experienced or heard of when I was single and dating in today's world can make most of us wonder 'is this what loving someone comes down to?' The fact is that most of us whether married or single are carrying some emotional wounds and some sort of baggage. Another fact is two people that carry different wounds and different baggage rarely meet each other after the healing has been done and the load that was carried is light. Each person in the couple is battling their own past or present demons and thus there are just too many people in the relationship when one hasn't fully healed. For example, when you get upset with your partner because they said something similar to what your ex said to you, there are three people in the situation, whether we like it or not.

There is no timeline when one could consider oneself healed and there is no guarantee that once you feel you're healed none of those demons will rear their heads back in. And this holds true for men or women. I'm sharing here some confessions, one in each episode that I've heard of or experienced myself that still leave me with a feeling of shock on how a human being can treat another after proclaiming to have once been in love with them.

These emotional bruises are not just the prerogative of single people's relationships. People in marriages carry baggage as well. Baggage that has probably been created by and now exists between the two spouses or residual baggage from previous relationships. The fights that never get solved, the things that are pushed under the carpet, the regret of some choices made and the bitterness that could ensue from those regrets. However, my stories are about non-married couples and my point of view has been built more on confessions from women, but I'm pretty sure men have their confessions too. Sorry that I don't know many.

Here's a confession that  really shook me up. At 3 a.m., after an evening of partying which ended in an argument between a couple, the woman was woken up by her boyfriend and asked to leave his house because things weren't working out for him. Being jolted out of sleep and kicked out someone's home in the middle of the night... What level of non-love is this?